Stephan C. über das Schicksal, ein Adoptivkind zu sein

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Stephan C. aus Erfurt möchte anonym bleiben. Foto: Alexander Volkmann

Stephan C. aus Erfurt möchte anonym bleiben. Foto: Alexander Volkmann

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Als Dreijähriger wurde Stephan C. adoptiert. Mit 15 Jahren entschied er sich für ein Leben im Kinderheim. Das Gefühl, von den Adoptiveltern belogen worden zu sein, überschattet die Erinnerung an seine Kindheit bis heute.

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Die fremde Frau nennt ihn "mein Sohn"

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Familienkrankheiten sind ein Geheimnis

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Adoptionen im Jahr 2011

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